a very odd dilemma

[quietann]

This one has to do with deguspice. He's been out of town for a few days, and I am finding that while I miss him in some ways, in other ways I am very much enjoying being alone. This especially is true of my energy level, chores, accomplishing various tasks, etc. I zoomed through a number of tasks today, stopping only a couple of times, and then briefly. At the point where I *thought* I'd have my daily nap, because I was pretty tired, I went outside and gardened for over an hour instead -- and am less tired now. I even washed the kitchen floor, one of my *least* favorite tasks, and one which is normally his job, but it needed to be done before he gets back.

Of course I love having him around, and he's my husband and all... but I experience better "flow" when he's not here. Now what do I do????

Comments

[drglam]

Acknowledge that you need some "alone" time, then make sure you get enough of it. Then encourage him to travel.

[skreeky]

*laugh* It's perfectly normal, dear, really. I know there are couples who take separate vacations for precisely this reason. I myself am very much looking forward to a roadtrip alone. Personally, I'm less happy about being home alone with my sweetie away for a long period, but I do enjoy having at least one day or evening per week that I can putter around without him in the way.

[sunspiral.livejournal.com]

What you're finding is perfectly valid and natural. We've found that part of any successful relationship is having some alone time built in. With secondaries it's easy, since one tends to see them less frequently. With the primary relationship, keeping the one who seems to need less alone time from feeling rejected may well require a lot of talking it out and maybe putting some extra effort into focusing on them after your alone times. you might want to talk to roozle about alone time, since I think that she and I have gotten this to work pretty well.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

What do you do?

Consider yourself human. :D

A.

[hammercock.livejournal.com]

My parents have been married for 33 years and they definitely benefit from time apart now and again. Heck, my mom's gone off on long weekend trips to London with her girlfriends, leaving my dad home alone. They still do plenty of stuff together (now more than ever, since my brother and I are adults). Needing alone time every so often doesn't mean you love deguspice any less.

[hawkegirl.livejournal.com]

Ditto to what they all said. I absolutley love my husband, and I absolutley have a great time when he's gone (for a while, when he's gone too long then I want him back!). :>