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quietannSo, this weekend I went shopping. Twice. At a mall. The first time was with Karen and Janet, two women who are ex-FTP folks but not susboids. It was _good_ to be with people who enjoy shopping, and don't look down their noses at a mall. (It seems to me that a lot of susboid women think that shopping at a mall is declasse', and one really ought to shop only at cool ethnic stores or Garment District or thrift shops, if one really must shop at all. This doesn't work for me because I am just short and round enough that none of those options have much that fits me.)
It was also nice to not feel guilty for spending money, since my shopping companions, combined, spent about 15 times as much as I did. Less happily, I _really_ need to not get any larger, because I'm at the upper end of the petite sizes, and clothing for women who are short _and_ fat is hard to come by. And this when so many of my female friends and acquaintances are getting new clothes because they are getting _smaller_.
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argh.
The second time, I got a new full-length raincoat with a hood and a zip in liner, at Filene's, for 40% off. Go me!
It was also nice to not feel guilty for spending money, since my shopping companions, combined, spent about 15 times as much as I did. Less happily, I _really_ need to not get any larger, because I'm at the upper end of the petite sizes, and clothing for women who are short _and_ fat is hard to come by. And this when so many of my female friends and acquaintances are getting new clothes because they are getting _smaller_.
MyweightdoesnotmeanImabadperson MyweightdoesnotmeanImalazyperson MyweightdoesnotmeanImanuncoolperson MyweightdoesnotmeanImanundeservingperson
argh.
The second time, I got a new full-length raincoat with a hood and a zip in liner, at Filene's, for 40% off. Go me!
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Date: 2002-09-30 08:09 am (UTC)No, it doesn't.
When I first saw a bunch of our shared friends and acquaintances embark on diets, exercise regimens, etc, I was very afraid that my group of friends, the place I'd found where it was safe to be a fat girl, was going to turn into yet another place where people traded Grapefruit Diet tips and said bitchy things about those who are large and competed to be skinniest and eat least.
That hasn't happened, by and large. People have undertaken their diets the same way they undertake any personal project, willing to talk but not proselytizing and/or judgemental; none of my friends who have gone on diets have rejected me for not being on one. The few who've been jerks about their diets were jerks already. :) I have been delighted and relieved to see this.
On shopping at malls: I think many susboid women may see malls as 'declasse', but I think many others just don't like them, without an added layer of judgement. One of the things I see in this crowd is a relative abundance of trying to do what fits one, not what The Rule Should Be.
Anyway. I've babbled long enough. :) *hug*
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