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quietannSo, this weekend I went shopping. Twice. At a mall. The first time was with Karen and Janet, two women who are ex-FTP folks but not susboids. It was _good_ to be with people who enjoy shopping, and don't look down their noses at a mall. (It seems to me that a lot of susboid women think that shopping at a mall is declasse', and one really ought to shop only at cool ethnic stores or Garment District or thrift shops, if one really must shop at all. This doesn't work for me because I am just short and round enough that none of those options have much that fits me.)
It was also nice to not feel guilty for spending money, since my shopping companions, combined, spent about 15 times as much as I did. Less happily, I _really_ need to not get any larger, because I'm at the upper end of the petite sizes, and clothing for women who are short _and_ fat is hard to come by. And this when so many of my female friends and acquaintances are getting new clothes because they are getting _smaller_.
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argh.
The second time, I got a new full-length raincoat with a hood and a zip in liner, at Filene's, for 40% off. Go me!
It was also nice to not feel guilty for spending money, since my shopping companions, combined, spent about 15 times as much as I did. Less happily, I _really_ need to not get any larger, because I'm at the upper end of the petite sizes, and clothing for women who are short _and_ fat is hard to come by. And this when so many of my female friends and acquaintances are getting new clothes because they are getting _smaller_.
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argh.
The second time, I got a new full-length raincoat with a hood and a zip in liner, at Filene's, for 40% off. Go me!
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Date: 2002-09-30 06:24 am (UTC)1) I shop at the mall, too. Call me crazy, but it's nice to have different stores under one roof, so if one store doesn't have anything I like, I can just walk to the next one.
2) I'm working on losing weight, and it takes a lot of energy, thought and time. To me, it's just another project, and it hurts to see people telling me "you look fine, why bother losing weight?" I don't think I need to lose weight to look good -- I'm pretty damn sexy already, and I was when I was 190 pounds (my heaviest) too. To me, it's like my painting course. Nobody ever says "you seem creative enough, why bother taking a painting class?" But to me, that's what it is.
I don't see anyone who isn't on the same track I am as lazy or bad. Society makes us feel that way -- I gave up shopping in the ladies/women's departments a long time ago. That's why I wear button-down shirts (and I wanted color, so I went with hawaiian shirts) and jeans or slacks. It's nice to be able to actually buy women's clothing now, and be able to fit into stuff in the GAP, but that wasn't my motivation.
In other words, I'm not judging you (and I don't think others are, although I can only speak for myself). It's interesting though, that you feel that way -- I've met with a lot of resistance from people, who assume my motivation for this.