sweaty and dehydrated is NOT SEXY dammit!

[quietann]

When I got home today, Ben made an offhand and meant-to-be complimentary comment... that my attire (tank top, shorts with pockets) made me look like Lara Flynn Boyle. AS IF! Not only am I far from a size 2 with pneumatic breasts, but my attire was clingy because I was hot and sweaty from being outside in the 95-degree-plus, humid weather.

I snapped at him. I really shouldn't have. But lately I don't like being labeled a "sex symbol" by him or anyone else. It places demands on me that are too much like putting me on a pedestal.

I could say more but it would be revealing way too much about my newlywed state, some of it rather depressing

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correction

[quietann.livejournal.com]

That is Lara Croft, not Lara Flynn Boyle.

[tb]

FWIW, I've also gotten snappish when someone has said something like "you look great" when I was feeling anything but. What are they, blind? Can't they see that I look and feel awful? Apparently it's just not as obvious as I think.

I guess I expect my outer state to more closely match my inner state, and when someone, especially someone close to me, doesn't read how I'm feeling, it can be really annoying. Rationally, I know that I can't expect anyone to be a mind/mood reader, but if I'm already cranky, it definitely colors my reaction when what they see is so much at odds with what I see/feel.