I hate this
Nov. 1st, 2004 10:02 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
quietannI just realized that I need to have Wednesday's lecture prepared (or at least have a good start on it), because I probably have to go out to BI to get my stitches out that day (which will take several hours, including transit, waiting, etc.), *and* because I really don't expect to get a lot of sleep Tuesday night.
By the way, Target has black hoodies in menswear. They cost $11 for pullover, and $15 for zip-front. Oddly enough, they are undersized. I bought an XL, which is huge, but the smallest size that does not bind my hips. They are made in Mexico, which is better than China, I guess. Target also has them in women's sizes for $20. I tried a 1X and it was huge, and it didn't have the ribbing at the bottom.
I'll be wearing mine today and tomorrow, and possibly on Wednesday as part of my mourning dress.
Also found out that long-time friends of Ben's left us off their invite list. It hurts. It's probably a Camberville thing again (and no, I don't have PMS). The Somerville bike path isn't part of our commute, so we are not "seen" down there, so I guess we're slipping off the radar. Plus, ya know, we are just so ordinary, not artistic or creative. To be fair, the last few parties we've been to at these friends' place have been VERY crowded, so trimming the guest list was probably necessary.
(And yet, I look out the window and rather than seeing another house 10 feet away, and trees struggling to survive, and either parked cars or neglected vegetation in the backwayrd, and hearing constant traffic, lous stereos, etc., I see our garden, and the fields, and the barn where we were married, beautiful trees, and sometimes a deer or a fox or some other wild critter. And I hear birds, and the wind rustling the leaves. It is peaceful, and that is worth more to me than being in the "in" crowd.)
(There was another MUCH more egregious social non-invitation involving the Camberville crowd and a suburbanite susboid, but it's not mine to talk about. All I can say is that the people responsible owe someone a HUGE apology. This is one where "we don't really have room in our apartment" isn't a good excuse.)
By the way, Target has black hoodies in menswear. They cost $11 for pullover, and $15 for zip-front. Oddly enough, they are undersized. I bought an XL, which is huge, but the smallest size that does not bind my hips. They are made in Mexico, which is better than China, I guess. Target also has them in women's sizes for $20. I tried a 1X and it was huge, and it didn't have the ribbing at the bottom.
I'll be wearing mine today and tomorrow, and possibly on Wednesday as part of my mourning dress.
Also found out that long-time friends of Ben's left us off their invite list. It hurts. It's probably a Camberville thing again (and no, I don't have PMS). The Somerville bike path isn't part of our commute, so we are not "seen" down there, so I guess we're slipping off the radar. Plus, ya know, we are just so ordinary, not artistic or creative. To be fair, the last few parties we've been to at these friends' place have been VERY crowded, so trimming the guest list was probably necessary.
(And yet, I look out the window and rather than seeing another house 10 feet away, and trees struggling to survive, and either parked cars or neglected vegetation in the backwayrd, and hearing constant traffic, lous stereos, etc., I see our garden, and the fields, and the barn where we were married, beautiful trees, and sometimes a deer or a fox or some other wild critter. And I hear birds, and the wind rustling the leaves. It is peaceful, and that is worth more to me than being in the "in" crowd.)
(There was another MUCH more egregious social non-invitation involving the Camberville crowd and a suburbanite susboid, but it's not mine to talk about. All I can say is that the people responsible owe someone a HUGE apology. This is one where "we don't really have room in our apartment" isn't a good excuse.)
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Date: 2004-11-01 08:29 am (UTC)nyeah, nyeah, my angst can beat up yours!
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Date: 2004-11-01 08:40 am (UTC)Well, at least you get left out because you are *interesting* (in the Chinese sense...)
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Date: 2004-11-01 08:55 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 10:17 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 10:19 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 10:51 am (UTC)This stuff is just so weird...
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Date: 2004-11-01 10:53 am (UTC)1. while it would suit both your self-image and mine to presume that description to be the case, i think it may be presumptuous anyway. having not actually been told otherwise, it may be they forgot me and hate you. *shrug*
2. sure, weird.
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Date: 2004-11-01 08:51 am (UTC)Now I'm curious about the last situation, though.
list trimming
Date: 2004-11-01 08:56 am (UTC)Because I didn't want to spend a lot time explaining/reliving all that, I trimmed my list of active LJ users who haven't shown enough of an interest in my LJ (or me overall, for most of those 4 months, when LJ was almost my sole support network) for me to merit giving them access to those portions of my journal.
Re: list trimming
Date: 2004-11-01 10:19 am (UTC)And I actually added you to my friends' list pretty recently, after Rabbit's going away party, where you reminded me just why I like you :)
And I did in fact get an invite to your party, but because of the aforementioned lecture, I will not be able to attend. I hope it's a good party...
Re: list trimming
Date: 2004-11-01 10:34 am (UTC)enjoy the lecture.
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Date: 2004-11-01 10:49 am (UTC)The lecture is actually one I am giving, not listening to. I am not especially looking forward to it...
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Date: 2004-11-01 12:15 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 09:16 am (UTC)We kinda figure that if we want a social life we need to invite people over here.
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Date: 2004-11-01 10:21 am (UTC)We can't invite people over, at least not yet, unless they can deal with a lot of construction dust and chaos.
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Date: 2004-11-01 11:17 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 11:39 am (UTC)So how about we have a "Not the Cool Kids" party sometime and just invite the people who never get invited?
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Date: 2004-11-01 12:10 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 10:39 am (UTC)it's nothing personal....
...really.
when I lived at freaking *Prospect and Mass Ave*, I never got invited to any Camberville parties. If it wasn't open invite, there was no Stephanie. Years later people were saying they never saw me when I lived there, but it was pretty much because I never got asked to do anything, which fed upon itself...
I have never been invited to a wedding, anywhere (I've attended 3 - 2 as a date and one because it was my own). The fact Rachel and Jacob *sent me an announcement* was a big step up for me. It just never occurs to anyone to do it. I don't think I've ever been trimmed from an invite list, because that would require me having been on it to begin with. I was, in grade 8, invited to a party that I'd known about for a week and a half about 20m before it started because the host suddenly realized she'd invited every other kid in the class but me, and her mother chastised her.
It's happened all my life, and I can't pretend it doesn't hurt, and I have no idea why it happens. It's often people who I know are genuinely my friends...for some reason no one ever thinks of me when thinking of invitations, even when afterwards they think 'oh, I wish I'd thought of you!'.
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Date: 2004-11-01 10:48 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 11:22 am (UTC)*soft sigh* Every time we tried to work out an invite list the past couple of years Tigerlily kinda froze up after a while. We'll be holding some parties; but we couldn't afford the kind of shindig we wanted. And we do feel a bit bad about that. No, I know you likely weren't referring to us.
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Date: 2004-11-01 11:58 am (UTC)it wasn't you, don't worry. I understand your situation completely. (If Ben had not wanted a big wedding, we would have done the same as you.) It was more people who had very big weddings to which most of our friends were invited.
Part of the reason we had the open-invite wedding is that I, too, would have frozen in terror if I'd been forced to make a guest list. Just dealing with the bridesmaids issue was enough to nearly put me over the edge, until I decided that I would have ONE and only ONE attendant, and it would be someone peripheral to susboids.
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Date: 2004-11-01 01:36 pm (UTC)Re: Parties--the only one I knew about was Noire's that was cancelled, but I decided to be a hermit Saturday, and Sunday was busy taking care of stuff I won't get to over the next few days. (I now know that trying to overdye a black dress w/Rit dye in an effort to restore the original color doesn't necessarily work...there went $7 and most of my Friday night. *sigh*)
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Date: 2004-11-01 12:21 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 02:48 pm (UTC)I ended up at another one to which I hadn't been invited (and didn't know the hosts at all) because I called a friend to meet up and they invited along with them. I suspect if you'd done something similar, the results would have been similar.
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Date: 2004-11-01 12:33 pm (UTC)But, of course, I'm really really out on the fringes... ;)
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Date: 2004-11-01 12:47 pm (UTC)Dangit, P and i should have a party someday... i think we've not had a real party since the Barbecue oh, 5 years ago
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Date: 2004-11-01 10:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 01:12 pm (UTC)*nodnodnod*
Date: 2004-11-01 01:21 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 01:35 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-11-01 02:10 pm (UTC)This is actually a really good house for parties, when it's (a) clean and (b) decluttered. It is neither at the moment, and really hasn't been since our wedding...
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Date: 2004-11-01 03:47 pm (UTC)In fact I didn't even hear of any until I checked LJ on Sunday/monday as well.
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Date: 2004-11-01 04:25 pm (UTC)Also, I didn't go to your wedding because I was freaking out over any extra expense and I felt that it would be, I am not sure, intruding.
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Date: 2004-11-01 04:28 pm (UTC)It was a no-frills-for-guests wedding. Could have been very cheap for you...